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Brain dumping

 So I recently listened to a Podcast on building habits and one of the point discussed was on reasons why we procrastinate. Among the reasons we procrastinate is fear of the unknown, fear of failing and overthinking. I know and am fully aware that I overthink like crazy. Sometimes I take forever to draft a simple thank you email for God knows why. But it has soon become a habit of mine to overthink and this led to me (I think) being inefficient (because I overthink, I want to make sure I cover all areas and that make sure there's no error/ almost perfect hence I take time to do things). And even when I was being too careful, I realise that I am still open to error. I still can make mistake. So really, there's no reason to try to make things perfect (of course you need to try your best) because at the end of the day, nothing is perfect, making mistakes is part of life, part of learning.   Anyway, I digressed.  So, the method to overcome this overthinking is of course - to speak

you can plan

If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.  Famous quote and everyone knows it. D and I had plans on celebrating our anniversary. We agreed not to celebrate it every single year (especially since it falls in the same month of my birthday = Dec). So we thought of celebrating milestones i.e. every 5 years like that.  Well, 2018 would be our 5th year.  And where did we go? Nowhere.  What did we do? Nothing. Practically stayed at home.  Any regrets for not planning ahead? Not really. This is what happens when you don't plan. As much as you say it out loud, if you don't act on it and put it on paper. Nothing's gonna happen.  Alas. We had a quite dessert date last night, just the two of us. Quick chat about life in general. How other people are doing. and I realised that, we are both quite different that we once were. I don't know if D felt it too. But yeah I guess marriage changes people. That's what D kept telling me before we go married. Strange coz I recal

Reflections 2018

"And suddenly, you just know it's time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings" Time really flies. That's all I could say for now.  Fast forward from my last post on this blog (which has been moved to draft btw), I have 2 girls. One 3 1/2 yo and the other, turning 15 mo on 1 Jan 2019.  I don't know what's motivating me to wake the blog from the dead. It's possibly upon realising how my vocabulary and grammar has gone pretty bad and I blame it on not writing and reading as much as I should/ could.  So posting on blogs to help improve my Engrand (its a Malaysian thing where we say Engrand instead of English).  There are so many things to do in 2019.  The first step, getting myself a planner (and actually using it). I purchased online from Everyday Planners . I have jotted down some stuff but struggling to complete the Vision Board and Goal Setting section.   I have always done reflections at year end, particularly on